The rupture and repair process hopefully makes good sense for your closest relationships. But what might it mean for our relationship with ourselves? What happens when we’ve betrayed our own values? We are deeply relational beings, which might mean sometimes there has been a rupture or conflict within our internal relational system.
Read MoreDo you ever find yourself unclear or unsure of your boundaries or limitations? Maybe you sense you or someone else has violated your boundaries? It can help to put some more particularity to the boundaries you have, need, and how to support your relationship to your boundaries.
Read MoreYou’ve likely heard of fight, flight, and freeze. But you may not have heard of the fourth “F”: fawn. You might think of fawning as people-pleasing, over-accommodating, not rocking the boat with your own boundaries, needs, or wants.
Read MoreTalking about sex and expectations around sex is one of the more vulnerable conversations couples have. There might be shame about wanting or not wanting sex, confusion over mis-matched desire, changing bodies and needs.
Read MoreSomething that regular therapy offers is the consistency and availability that may have been missing early on. For relational and attachment oriented therapy, this is a critical part of the healing process. The consistency of a therapeutic space, time, and person, is the foundation for attachment therapy.
Read MoreIn a world marked by rapid change, economic instability, global crises, and constant information overload, uncertainty has become a regular state of being. Understanding how this ongoing uncertainty fuels anxiety can help us respond more skillfully.
Read MoreThere’s been a true uptick in political unrest over the last couple of weeks. It’s a lot to take in, and you may be feeling the powerlessness that comes with watching things unfold and not knowing what you can do about it.
Read MoreThere’s a lot of memory in a family system. It can feel like it’s frozen in time, suddenly you’re back to your 15 year old self––angsty, upset, tearful, and annoyed by everyone. You may be a competent adult with boundaries, but you’re suddenly back to that familiar role.
Read MorePerhaps one of the unexpected challenges of life after trauma, is the struggle to connect and linger with enjoyable or pleasurable experiences. Sometimes a nervous system stuck in a trauma response, doesn’t have much tolerance for enjoyment. This can be the result of shut-down, hypervigilance, fear, and anxiety.
Read MoreI recently heard this phrase “the grief of lost time” and it hasn’t left my mind. I heard it used in the context of acknowledging the time lost in this current age of technology, where we lose hours of our lives to scrolling mindlessly.
Read MoreYou might appear like you’re functioning just fine––going to work, sleeping, eating, taking care of your family, etc. But inside you may be struggling, feeling down and disconnected from yourself and others.
Read MoreOur news is obviously filled with suffering and global crises. We need to be mindful of how these crises can affect our mental health, the signs and symptoms that your nervous system is totally overwhelmed, and ways to support yourself when this happens.
Read MoreBurnout doesn’t often arrive suddenly, with sirens and flashing lights. Often, it’s a slow creep. A steady drain. A dimming of your inner light and a growing heaviness in your mind-body system.
Read MoreHave you ever wondered how to make good use of your therapeutic time and space? Sometimes clients need a little help to figure out how therapy works or how to use the space well. Here are a few things I’ve noticed can contribute to therapy being what you need it to be.
Read MoreI have a lot of conversations with clients about how they are finding joy and rest. This is part of how we allow our nervous systems to recover from stress and often how we are connecting with others or ourselves. The “always-on” culture of the world today makes it hard to experience true rest.
Read MoreThe pace of the mind is fast. The world is full of noise, both literal and figurative. This can really set the stage for an anxious mind and body. To better cope with anxiety, mindfulness offers a powerful set of tools to bring you back to the present and help you manage the experience in a grounded, sustainable way.
Read MoreIt’s important to remember that it’s not the presence of conflict that determines the health of a relationship. It’s how the disagreement is handled that matters. Finding ways to navigate respectful disagreement is important for building more resilient and connected relationships.
Read MoreWhen the news is filled with violence—political assassinations, escalating war, hunger and malnutrition, and other traumatic events—it can take a toll on our emotional well-being. It’s important to know how this kind of media exposure can affect your mental health and what you can do to care for yourself.
Read MoreIn a world that constantly demands our time, energy, and attention, setting boundaries isn't just a self-care strategy—it's a survival skill. Without clear limits, we risk becoming overwhelmed, burnt out, and disconnected from ourselves and others.
Read MoreI’ve often noticed a connection between people who have experienced trauma and the challenge with emotional expression. This tends to go one of two ways for folks: either a difficulty accessing, identifying, and communicating feelings OR on the other end of the spectrum, emotional flooding and difficulty with regulating big emotions.
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